Safe Relationships


Like any good thing, great relationships take time and the right ingredients



Including:

Trust
Honesty
Loyalty
Good Communication
Respect
Time
Knowing the person
Unconditional love

These things take time. You are worth the time and effort to have safe and healthy relationships.

Signs of a Toxic Relationship


These relationships can be with family or friends, as well as a dating partner.


Are you in a relationship with someone who:

You’ve never had a real live conversation with?

This person cannot be trusted because you don’t know who they are.

Makes you feel guilty if you don’t do or give them what they want?

This person is making you feel like you are responsible for their happiness.

– Has cheated on you but said it would never happen again?

This person is not loyal.

– Doesn’t respect what is important to you?

This person does not love you for who you are.

– Puts you down or says mean things to you?

This person uses abusive words to tear you down.

– Gets jealous if you hang out with others?

This person is controlling you with guilt.

– Asks you to do things you’d regret?

This person is putting your future in danger.

– Threatens to expose you or physically harms you?

This person is an abuser and needs to be reported immediately.

NONE OF THESE MAKE FOR A SAFE RELATIONSHIP – DON’T BE FOOLED!


Break Up Skills


THERE’S HOPE! Toxic relationships can be ended, but it takes support.


Practical ways to get out of a toxic relationship:

  1. Bring a parent, trusted friend or other adult with you. These conversations are difficult, and you need support.
  2. Find a safe place so you can have a face-to-face. This is real life, not virtual, so keep it real.
  3. Stick to what is TRUE ABOUT YOU, not about the other person. These “I” statements keep you in control of the conversation.
    • “I am not responsible for your happiness and don’t deserve to be manipulated.”
  • “I don’t deserve to be cheated on.”
  • “I deserve to be treated with respect and have my own opinions/beliefs/likes.
    • “I can have and hang out with other friends.”
  • “I don’t deserve to be talked down to.”
    • “I don’t deserve to be asked to do something that can hurt my future.”
    • “I don’t deserve to be abused.
      I.AM. PRICELESS.”

The only answer/response you should hear is… “YOU ARE RIGHT.”

YAY YOU! You aren’t blaming the other person, you are making true statements about yourself.

You are worth fighting for. You do not have to settle for a relationship that makes you feel worthless or afraid.


GET HELP – If you are in any immediate danger call 911

Depression/Suicide: www.teenlineonline.org or www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

If you are considering ending your life, call 911.

YOUR LIFE MATTERS! YOU ARE HERE FOR A PURPOSE. YOU ARE LOVED. YOU. ARE. PRICELESS.

Talk to someone who will tell you the truth about who you are in a world that tells you lies. Don’t let someone else write your story. You are the author and your story counts.

Online Gaming Abuse: report.cybertip.org/index.htm

Gang raped on Minecraft? Exchange nudes for Fortnite battle pass? Earn money for killing a prostitute on GTA5? “Looking for a real man to view my nudes”? Not normal. Not OK. This is what predators do or say.

These “deals” are not worth the cost. You have no idea where your picture or video might end up or what you’ll be asked to do if you agree to the deal. These are not hot girls or gorgeous guys who are interested in you! These online predators are making bank recording images and videos of guys and girls, then selling them as child porn. Anyone who asks you for nudes or to go online and share sexual experiences is committing a crime against you that you need to report.

Sextortion: Text “THORN” to 741741 or go to www.stopsextortion.com

Threating to reveal intimate images of you to get you to do something you don’t want to do is an illegal form of blackmail called sextortion. If someone is threatening to expose you if you don’t meet their demands, GET HELP NOW. Document and report the threats. If you don’t report it they may keep harassing you for months. Once you report it, they know they can be arrested if they post or forward your intimate images.

Online Bullying:

www.stopbullying.gov/cyberbullying/how-to-report/index.html

If you or someone you know is being harassed, threatened or ridiculed online, don’t respond to and don’t forward those messages. Instead:

  • Block the person who is cyberbullying
  • Save and print screenshots, emails, and text messages of the cyberbullying
  • Provide this information to an adult you trust, to law enforcement and to web and cell phone service providers

Too many teens lives are being destroyed by cyberbullying that can be stopped if we care enough to speak up for those being abused.

Sexual Abuse & Assault:

Sexual abuse is very difficult to talk about, but it does not stop unless you get help. If you have been sexually assaulted or are being abused, call 911. To talk anonymously with a trained person:

  • Call the National Child Abuse Hotline at 800.4.A.CHILD (422-4453), 24/7
  • Call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800.656.HOPE (4673)
  • Chat online at rainn.org

There is hope, and there is healing—if you get help.

Illegal Pop-Ups & Online Predators: www.report.cybertip.org

NCMEC’s (National Center for Missing & Exploited Children) CyberTipline is the nation’s centralized reporting system for the online exploitation of children and youth. The public and electronic service providers can make reports of suspected online enticement of children for sexual acts, child pornography, child sex trafficking, and unsolicited obscene materials sent to a child. NCMEC staff review each tip and work to find a potential location for the incident reported so that it may be made available to the appropriate law-enforcement agency for possible investigation.

Sexual Abuse & Assault Specifically for MALES: www.malesurvivor.org

MenHealing provides healing resources for males age 18 and older who have experienced sexual trauma during childhood or as adults: referrals to licensed therapists in your community, connecting with other survivors in their peer-moderated discussion forums and chat room, attending MaleSurvivor sponsored events.

Pornography & Porn Addiction:

www.joinfortify.comTens of thousands of Fortify users in over 155 countries have experienced an 85% decrease in depression and 88% reduction in porn use

www.xxxchurch.com – Online software, videos, workshops and small groups have helped hundreds of thousands of people.

https://fightthenewdrug.org – Fight the New Drug is a non-religious and non-legislative organization that exists to provide individuals the opportunity to make an informed decision regarding pornography by raising awareness on its harmful effects using only science, facts, and personal accounts.

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